Christian Singles - Arranged Matrimony and True Love

By Francis K Githinji

The modern Christian singles have some serious issues about arranged marriages and finding true love. The world in which we are living today has made us believe that anything arranged means that we were unable to find a viable mate to date and even marry later on, making it seem like we are losers. This feeling is more rampant among the youthful Christian singles who have not been involved in any relationship before. They want to get into the world with their heads held high, select a person they feel is the right one and with the use of the society's accepted criteria of choosing a partner, they jumpstart their relationships. Most of these relationships have either failed or led to divorces, or the partners have decided to persevere with loveless unions, since they don't want to be labeled as failures.

I am not saying that arranged marriages are the ones Christian singles should consider, but it is good to say that these relationships have worked before and most of them have not hit a snag. Every good and perfect gift comes from the Lord. We must realize that relationships are not to be taken lightly and if you feel as one of the Christian singles out there that you are not ready for marriage, then do not even consider having a dating relationship.

There is true and active love in arranged marriages, as compared to the notion that many people have regarding arranged marriage, that it is mostly guided by duty and not love. Love is a term that has been misused and has led to the demise of many relationships. Christian singles should not discredit arranged marriage, since they represent what has happened many a times in the bible. After Isaac, son of Abraham reached the age of marriage, a marriage had to be arranged for him, and in each and every step God was involved, giving guidelines and choosing the right girl for youthful Isaac. This is the relationship that gave birth to the tribe of Israel and God's hope for the redemption of mankind.

The good thing with arranged marriages is that the individuals who have arranged it for you know you very well as to know the right person who can suit you fine. This is what has made Christian singles to disregard it, since they don't appreciate the notion that people know them well than them. Even your friends can arrange a marriage for you, and since they have interacted with you and know your criteria towards holy matrimony, they can find you the best, whether you like it or not.

Those Christian singles who discredit this form of marriage have said that they lack in love and replace it with duty. They are mistaken. A union between two people who love each other means that the two individuals have found that their duties are towards the satisfaction of the other partner. Love is about duty, since you cannot help or make anyone comfortable for the rest of your life out of mere duty, but you can do so if you love them. The duty will not feel like a burden but as a way of making them happy. It's what God wants every relationship to have.

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Online Matrimony - A Booming Business in India

By Shadaan Alam

Online Matrimony is slowly but gradually emerging as one of the most lucrative businesses in the country today. People are realizing the benefits of being on the net and choosing their partners. The matrimonial world indeed has become a long way.

Gone are the days when the onus of choosing the boy or girl lied on the parents or relatives alone. Today the decision is being aptly made by the entire family including the prospective bride or the groom. Thanks to the internet and matrimonial websites, it has become quite easy to choose your life partner. In fact it appears just a click away.

As per a research by the firm Juxt Consult, matrimonial search is the 13th most popular activity on the internet today amongst the 12 million urban users in India. The 25-35 age group forms the largest base of matrimonial users at 40 per cent, followed by the 19-24 age group at 34 per cent. Online matrimony users are relatively younger compared to the rest of the Internet users, the study says. The South accounts for 44 per cent of users of matrimonial Websites. Thus, South India too is coming to the forefront when it comes to choosing partner online.

Online matrimony is coming up as major brand which is evolving itself in a better form, keeping in view the needs and requirements of the users. The emerging trend is visible with many of the leading matrimonial sites tying up with DTH and mobile service providers to amass more and more users. Since most of the people still depend upon the dial up connection and internet still not reaching all the towns of the country, so partnership with the mobile companies appears to be a viable option. This has kept the matrimonial websites at a far higher pedestal than ever before since accessibility to mobile phones is far greater than the internet. Apart from this, many of the sites have also tied up with the leading newspapers of the country to generate more users through the classified columns where they are giving advertisements in local language newspapers.

The business minds understand the basic truth that in India marriage is a sacred institution-which can never be written off. Its importance is and will always remain. These matrimonial websites are more and more targeting the youngsters since they are the ones who are more net savvy then their parents.

The online matrimony business is said to be more than Rs 60 crore business today. Thus more and more centers of these websites are being opened in different regions all over the country. A combination of both online and offline users has made it even a more profitable business today. (Offline centers are visited more often by the parents of girls and boys).

Though online matchmaking is a great booming business in India but still it is faced with tough challenges the most important being- customer satisfaction. There are a number of profiles which are fake and made just for fun. This greatly hinders with the performance of these sites, since the website with a large number of fake profiles will surely be losing its users. So it falls upon the company to check that all the profiles are genuine and serious. Even today many of the people do not prefer the idea of posting their personal details on matrimonial sites, so these sites are losing a great number of customers on this account as well. Further the newspaper classifieds are taking away a large share of profits.

But on the whole, online matrimony is just on the right track, forcing us to change the old adage 'marriages are made in heaven' to 'marriages are made online'.

About Author: The writer is a free lance journalist based in Aligarh, she is also an staff writer for Mangaljodi.com, an Indian matrimonial website based in Bhopal. She can be contacted at shadaan.alam@gmail.com.

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